This a PSA: Overweight, plus size, big-boned(lol had to put that one in there) or fat does not = DESPERATE!!! This is becoming an epidemic people lmbo. I mean if you see me somewhere and you can see the sign on my forehead that reads; please if you have no job, stay with your best friends cousins uncle lol, have no means of transportation, can't talk in complete sentences, and finally expects me to pick you up when we go out. Please and I do mean please come by and slap me and take the sign off! I will completely understand if you explain yourself first, this is very important because I have serious reflexes lmbo.
Here lately I have been emitting the wrong vibes out into the universe, this has to be the problem. I actually had a conversation with a guy today who after I completely shut him down was appalled that I didn't want to be bothered by his ridiculous antics. I guess he was appalled because me, being clearly overweight should be happy that anyone is wanting to be with me, lol this was too funny. However, the conversation turned more serious when he had a couple of questions to ask me. First, he wanted to know was I seeing anyone else, because surely if I didn't want his sorry behind then I must be with someone (insert side eye here) lol. Finally, what should have been the first question he asked me was, why I don't want to at least give him a try. I kindly told him because two years from now after he's fallen madly in love with me, I don't want to be in divorce court again. LMBO!!! All he could do was laugh and say okay.
I've settled before and I think we all have at some point. I'm divorced, but I married the wrong man because I had convinced myself that no one else would love me like him. Wrong. I was young and didn't really know what I was doing I only thought I did, but I learned a lot from that situation and that is always and I do mean always go with your gut feeling. I knew deep down that he wasn't the man for me and after being in an abusive and adulterous marriage I realized then, I have to trust my instincts more.
Okay moving right along. One tip for the BG's (Big Girls) I actually had shirts made in college that said the BG's lol. Okay, back to the advice: If a man says that he only dates big girls, run like hell! I have always been leery of people who are so closed minded, because in my personal opinion when I hear this the red flags go up. There is some insecurity somewhere and some men date big girls because they feel they won't leave them or no one else wants them, so they have a little puppet. Now, in all fairness I have met some men where they are just attracted to larger women and hey I can't judge, cause you like what you like (insert side wink). :)!
I am by no means rude or too picky but I know my worth and that doesn't matter if I was skinny, thick, or somewhere in between. Knowing what you offer and not being willing to settle is one way you love yourself. I love me too much to constantly compromise and give up on what I want in life because of some fat and extra weight. I'm not materialistic and yes I have dated the fry cook at some fast food restaurants so that doesn't matter either, well (clears throat) you know what I mean lol. I'm thoroughly convinced that the man that God has ordained for me is somewhere patiently waiting on me as well. Until he gets here, I have no problem with telling Mr. Wrong that I don't need his time because I'm not lonely or desperate. We don't have to settle because we're fat, it's all just a misconception!
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